(and what's really going on)

We've all had those moments — the sudden selective hearing, the jumping that "came back," the growl that catches us off guard. Before we label it as stubborn, dominant, or defiant… let's reframe it. Most dogs aren't testing our authority. They're responding to stress, confusion, development, or unmet needs. Here are the moments when behavior tends to wobble — and why.

1. When the Routine Changes Dogs love predictability.

A new work schedule, guests visiting, kids back in school, even time changes can throw them off. What looks like acting out is often just an adjustment.

2. During Adolescence

Teenage dogs (roughly 6–24 months depending on breed) often seem to "forget" their training. They haven't. Their brains are still developing, especially impulse control. Consistency now pays off later. 3. When They're Overtired An overtired dog can look hyper, nippy, or reactive. Zoomies and poor choices often mean they actually need rest, not more stimulation.

4. When They're Overstimulated

Busy parks, family gatherings, playdates — stimulation stacks quickly. A dog who "won't listen" may simply be overwhelmed and unable to process cues.

5. Around High-Value Items

Food, toys, sleeping spots, and even favorite humans can feel very important to a dog. Guarding behaviors usually come from insecurity, not dominance.

6. When Rules Aren't Consistent

If jumping sometimes gets attention and sometimes gets ignored, your dog will keep trying. In their mind, persistence works.

7. After Big Life Changes

Moving homes, adding a baby, introducing another pet — these transitions can temporarily shake behavior. Dogs feel change deeply.

8. When Something Hurts

Sudden growling, snapping, or withdrawal can signal discomfort or pain. Behavior is often the first symptom.

9. When They're Unsure of Boundaries

If different family members have different rules, your dog may simply be gathering information. Clarity builds confidence.

10. When a Need Isn't Being Met

Mental stimulation, exercise, connection, decompression time — when needs aren't met, behavior fills the gap.

A Gentle Reminder

Most behavior isn't about defiance. It's communication. When we shift from "How do I stop this?" to "What is my dog trying to tell me?" we move from frustration to understanding — and that's where real progress begins.

Need Support? If you're seeing one of these patterns in your home, you don't have to navigate it alone. Sometimes a few small adjustments can make a big difference — especially in multi-dog households or situations involving guarding or reactivity. If you'd like guidance tailored specifically to your dog and your family, reach out to schedule a consultation. I'm here to help you create calmer, clearer communication — and a home that feels safe for everyone in it.

Penny DiLoreto- Cpdt ka🐾